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Did you stay disciplined to what you said you were going to do today?

Or did you waste the day?

Discipline isn't a chore, it's the type of order that sets you free.

During your journey to become a more disciplined person, you’ll face obstacles and moments when all you want to do is quit, give up, and just go with the flow. But, if you maintain your discipline and commitment to manage and improve things, nothing can really keep you down.

As a result, you will become more strong, committed and focused.

The reward for a more disciplined and focused life will be achieving your dreams and becoming more fulfilled with the things that you accomplish. You'll lead a life you love with no regrets or additional stress.

Want to know the best steps to develop the discipline necessary to succeed in life? Well, here you go.

Check out these 7 tips to gaining more self-discipline.

Whether you're focusing on your diet, fitness, work ethic or relationships, self discipline is the number one trait needed to accomplish goals, lead a healthy lifestyle, and ultimately, be happy.

1. Remove Temptations

Self control is often easiest when things are “out of sight, out of mind.” Removing all temptations and distractions from your environment is a crucial first step when working to improve your self discipline.

If you are trying to have better control of your eating, stop buying junk and fried food. If you want to improve your focus while working, turn off your cell phone and remove the clutter from your desk.

2. Practice healthy eating

Studies have shown that low blood sugar often weakens a person’s judgment. When you’re hungry, your ability to concentrate goes out the window as your brain is not functioning to its highest potential.

Hunger makes it difficult to focus on the tasks at hand, not to mention turning you into "Negative Nancy." Plus, I can't focus on anything when I'm hungry or have the 'itis' so yea...

3. Stop waiting for things to "feel right"

Improving your self discipline means changing up your normal routine, which may feel weird and get you out of your comfort zone. When a behavior becomes habit, we stop using our decision-making skills and instead function on auto-pilot. Therefore, breaking a bad habit and building a new habit not only requires us to make active decisions, it will feel wrong. Your brain will resist the change in favor of what it has been programmed to do.

The solution? Embrace the wrong. Acknowledge that it will take a while for your new actions to feel right or good or natural. Keep making progress. It will happen.

4. Schedule breaks and rewards for yourself

Self discipline does not mean your new regimen needs to be entirely cold turkey, hard core, or drill sergeant-like in execution. In fact, giving yourself zero wiggle room often results in failures, disappointments, and giving into your old ways. While practicing self control, schedule specific breaks, treats, and rewards for yourself.

I normally plan out the upcoming week on Sundays, so I make it a priority to choose a reward for myself if I accomplish my goals for the week. Also, I am a huge "time blocker" as well so I schedule in at least 2-3 breaks a day with an hour lunch break.

Self-discipline can be hard. Reward yourself.

5. Forgive yourself and move forward

Instituting a new way of thinking won’t always go according to plan. You will have ups and downs, fabulous successes, and flat out failures. The key is to keep moving forward. When you have a setback, acknowledge what caused it and move on.

It is easy to get wrapped up in guilt, anger, or frustration, but these emotions will not help build improve self discipline. Instead, use the challenges in your plan as learning experiences for the future.

6. Take responsibility for your actions

If you want to achieve your goals, you need to stop complaining and start taking action and responsibility for your actions. You’ll end up learning about your shortcomings which gives you the opportunity to correct them and improve your overall habits, skills set, and mindset. That way you'll start living the life you've always dreamed of.

7. Align with your goals

Find goals you are passionate about and motives that give you strength to get through the hard times. With a strong will, your actions aligned to realistic goals, and self-discipline, you will overcome and achieve all your dreams.

Discipline in this season looks like setting boundaries and sticking to them, saying "no" and meaning it, doing things to the best of your ability even when you don't "feel like it." Want to know why? Because you are striving to achieve the bigger picture and greater rewards within the life that you've always imagined.

With discipline, people will have faith in you, and want to interact, work and learn from you. In that way, you will create more opportunities for yourself and own your space in this world.

Remember, the only way we move forward is if we keep the promises we make to ourselves.

Stay cute and committed!

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Bruises. Pain. Wounds. Hurt. The things that you do not resolve and the things that you will not let go of will KILL your: opportunities, future, love, peace, destiny, power and the amazing things that God has placed inside of you.

Have you ever had the unpleasant experience of being stung by a bee? Did you realize the bee sting was far less painful than the after effects of the actual sting? This same reasoning applies to life and the traumatic experiences that we face over the course of our lives. So, with that being said, are you taking your anger out on the bee that stung you or are you imparting your hurt onto the people in your life who are only there to love you?

Whether you are still holding on to the pain of having an absent father, failed relationship, or battling past issues; you need to look deep down in your soul to uncover these wounds in order to emerge into wholeness. It is impossible for you to become the woman that God has called you to be, if you don’t make a full commitment to focus on your own personal healing.

Let’s dive into the most important part of this message: Who hurt you? Close your eyes and take a minute to think about everyone in your life who has hurt, used or abused you in some type of way. How do you feel about them? Have you allowed the sting received from these individuals to dictate the way you communicate, love, and view others?

If so, this is very unfair to those people in your life because you are charging them with a crime that they did not commit. It is detrimental to harbor the pain of the past and transcend your negative emotions into your other relationships based on the circumstances of your past encounters. You are truly doing an injustice to the people in your life who care about you by operating out of a place of hurt and not giving your all to those around you.

If life demands something from us in a place where we have been stung, we tend to get mad about it and begin to make excuses; instead of dealing with the issue at hand. For instance, when a person is stung by a bee, the stinger has to be taken out of their body to begin the healing process.

The same is true for us as humans. If we don’t focus on the root of our problems, then we will continue to operate in the dysfunction of our issues and it will destroy us. We have to start from the root, which means digging down in your soul to discover the issues that need to be dealt with by working to heal in every area that is broken. You won’t become free indeed until you let go of anything in life that is hindering you from reaching your full potential.

Everything has a background – that includes problems as well. Think to yourself, “Why are you this way?” For example, during my wholeness journey, I discovered that the reason why it was so difficult for me to fully love others and be emotionally present was because I suffered from abandonment issues due to having an absent father. Due to this unfortunate circumstance, I would always force myself to assume that everyone in my life would leave me at some point, no matter how much they loved me.

The battlefield of the mind is something serious and because I forced myself to believe that the people in my life would eventually leave me, I never gave my full 100% in relationships out of the fear of being abandoned. Later in life, I realized that everyone was different and there are people in the world who have my best interests at heart, but it is not fair to them to be judged and measured with the same stick that I used for those who hurt me. Everyone deserves a fair chance.

Bitterness that is left unresolved will shorten your life span, kill your creativity and kill your chances of loving and being loved. Are you taking out your anger on the bee or the nurse? Whether you are still harboring emotions or grudges towards the person who hurt you – it is time to let it go and forgive.

If you are allowing the pain of the past to dictate your future – it is time to tear down the wall that you have built up and focus on your healing. Find it in your heart to give others a fair chance to love and be there for you, despite the things that you have encountered in the past. The time is now – to stop looking back at your pain and begin to look forward towards your healing and purpose.

You have the power within yourself to rise above all that you have been through!

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